People spring in and out of our lives because each individual has a reason and season in our journey. Season to be witnessed and reason to be fulfilled. With people we share a part of our lives, a part of ourselves. Each season ends with a lesson and each reason fulfilled with a hope. A single strand of hope which has the power to change the course of life, if not the efficacy to move mountains.
Recently I was talking to a person and she told me that she has a person in her life that constantly nags her. So i asked her what do you mean by nagging? Further she expalined that, “the transgressor constantly acts like a bug would tell me to do this or to do that when i am already doing it, and it is very annoying when he is constantly speaking and bossing around the house.” I asked her how do you tackle such situations it must be stressful. She said, “I can’t avoid the situation neither I can explain him because it is useless as he has a rigid personality and would tell me in return you are taking everything on heart so calm down. I live with that person and he is around me 24 second so I found two ways to deal with him: I keep myself busy in some constructive work, meditate as i feel stressed around him, and focus on other good things happening around.” It made me feel happy that she is using positive coping strategies to deal with the situation. I understand that sometimes there are people in our life which play the role of darkness, pure darkness, but stars can’t shine without darkness. Sometimes we cannot work on a relationship and it is best to let it go. Let all toxicity drain away from your life. Bring peace to your life by doing whatsoever you can. Just make sure what you are doing is healthy and positive. We as human beings need to reflect back. It is very important to realize what we are doing. Are we a source of light or darkness. It is never too late. We make mistakes we are human beings. We can always undo our mistakes but the first step is realizing what is the problem. Be a nice human being. Say something nice or stay quiet. May like the candle be the life of ours. Ameen.
Accept and respect are two ordinary words that we all know. They both might sound quite similar but there is a huge difference between accepting someone or respecting someone. For me accepting something/someone means we believe the beliefs or views of other person whereas respecting someone means we understand that the other person is an individual human being and we simply respect them for being who they are. We don’t believe in what they are saying or who they are but we just listen to them, give them freedom to speak and deal them with courtesy. And it is totally okay. For example I don’t like watching dramas of any kind at all as they don’t promote anything positive and most of the time everyone is crying, or shouting therefore I believe media is playing a role of slow poison for the youth. However my friends love watching dramas. So, just because for me it is time wasting it doesn’t mean everyone should stop watching dramas, it might serves as an entertainment for others. We don’t need to accept every thing. We are all human beings and each one of us see the world from a very unique lens. People can be very different from us and it is okay. We don’t have to push ourselves to believe in something we don’t want to. We do not need to accept in order to respect.
Many people who have dark complexion, face humiliating comments by the society. The ones who are emotionally strong succeeds in ignoring those comments and they look at themselves with love because God has made them and He is the best of all artists. They feel comfortable in their own skin. They know what others say/think about them is not the point of view they have of themselves. But some are severly affected by those comments. Remember dark skin tone, medium skin tome, light skin tone they are all beautiful.
To all those people who unintentionally or intentionally tell others that they are black or in my mother language they say kaali, taway jesa rang hai is ka, or they are told to use fairness creams. Stop! It is high time. Stop calling others with hurtful nicknames. Stop making others feel bad about themselves. Stop hurting others. Don’t try making them believe your concept of beauty!
And to all those strong people out there who have face these harsh comments, listen! “What others say about you doesn’t matter at all. Beauty of heart matters. If you are a good human being that is what matters. Feel confident and comfortable in your own skin. Love yourself unconditionally for you are as important as anyone else is!”
I know it is easier said than done. It is tough but I believe you are stronger than this. You are beautiful and smart in your own way.
We can be the change we wish to see.
I love complementing people, telling them they are caring, beautiful, smart, or simply telling them I feel happy when they are around. It may seem like I am sugary/very sweet but that is a part of my personality. I genuinely love complementing people. I do that by heart and In Shaa Allah I will continue doing that. See life is tough and maybe by saying one kind word, meeting someone with excitement, giving them a tiny little card and telling them how precious they are can make someone happy even for a second, it is worth it! We don’t know what the other person is going through, every single one of us is fighting a battle, and when we put positivity out there into the universe our own self becomes a happier person. So the moral of the post is be kind, give complements, love yourself, love others, and spread positivity.
“Kind words are precious
And like a cherry sweet
its enough; just one or two
to give the heart a treat
They are just like fairies
To love- they lead the way
No matter what situation
Just one can make your day
They work magically
Turning a frown into a smile
Your words, believe it or not
Makes someone’s life worthwhile.”
-poem by Marinela Reka
(Be a rainbow in someone else’s cloud.)
Why is it so vital to talk to yourself positively? Because the way we talk to ourself determines how much we value ourself. Do we care about ourself the way we care about others? Are we kind to ourself? Do we give unconditional love to ourself?
The single significant factor in influencing our thoughts and our actions is self-talk. Listen to your thoughts and it will unveil the greatest influencing factor in your life. For example I made a mistake either I can tell myself you are careless or I can assure myself that next time I will be careful. And wise is the person who accepts his/her mistake and learns from it. We are human beings capable of making mistakes. We need to understand that there are times going to come when we will feel like we can’t do enough, be enough and that’s the time we need to tell ourselves that ‘I am doing my best, and that is what matters.’
Being kind to yourself is as important as being kind to others. Try not to compare yourself to anyone. We are not perfect beings. We are all unique in our own way. One thing can be your strength while the same thing can be the weakness of the other person. Believe in yourself, have faith in yourself. Have positive private speech (self-talk). Appreciate yourself even when no one appreciates you, give kind, beautiful comments to yourself, be gentle with yourself. Take care of yourself. Be the source of light for yourself as well as for others too.
May God give us strength to deal with whatever we are going through and make us all strong. Ameen.
*(My posts are also for myself so that when I feel down I can read it and remind myself once again I have the power to modify my thoughts)*
Sometimes it is okay to feel how you feel whether you are sad, disappointed, frustrated, or angry. Accepting your feelings is a crucial part of life. Just feel how you feel. Tell yourself that you are willing to experience your thoughts and feelings without judging them as good or bad. Take a deep breath and say, “I understand that struggling against my feelings leads to more suffering than simply experiencing them as they are.” “My thoughts are something that I have. They are not who I am.” “They are not always the complete truth and I do not have to act on them.” Sometimes the best thing to do is to lie down, to relax, and to feel how you feel. Take deep breaths. It is okay to be sad, to be frustrated, to be angry. What matters is how you react. You didn’t gave your feelings importance or you simply acknowledged how you felt? Maybe meditation, walk, jogging, or any healthy coping strategy seems useless for the time being but it is not useless. Maybe taking deep breaths will make you feel like this is non-sense what am I even doing but it works. With time I have come to realize that in my case meditation is my happy pill which helps me to calm down. I sometimes close my eyes, imagine I am lying down on the grass, there are clouds floating in the sky with the label of my feelings on it, I take deep breaths and simply observe them floating. It helps me to calm down and relax when I feel stressed or when I feel mad about something and I can’t do anything. Oh meditation my happy pill. 💊
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